Signs Of Sexual Abuse
There are many signs of sexual abuse. Every child reacts in a different way, and show different signs. There is no possible way to completely prepare for something like this, but I want to do my best to help create some awareness. Throughout my research through websites, books, and other blogs that have posted statics I have found specific "signs" that seem significantly common.
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As I continue to research I will add more information on the signs of sexual abuse. |
Grooming
I would like to use this portion to educate parents on the
process in which a child sexual predator uses to obtain a child’s trust and
silence. Obviously there is no way to predict how all sexual abuse cases happen
or begin. But after a huge amount of research I have found that this seems to
be a common way for predators to obtain victims. The grooming processes it a
method predator’s use to target and a child. This involves a huge amount of manipulation
to which they use to gain power over the child and the relationship.
Here are a few things to watch out for: · Someone showing special attention o Obviously there are people that care genuinely for your children and create bonds with them; this sign is just something I would use to keep a closer eye until you feel you can trust them. Something’s to look out for in this area is what way are they paying more attention, how is your child reacting to it, are they saying things to make your child feel like there is a “special” connection. In a guy (predator)/girl (child) instance you can pay attention to how she is feeling. Is she getting infatuated or starting to have a crush? These are signs that show the relationship might not only be dangerous but unhealthy. · Getting gifts from an unlikely individual o This is a huge sign because most of the time a predator will give a gift that probably isn’t appropriate and ask the child not to show their parents. Paying attention to what they bring home, what they are wearing, or what they have in their purse/wallet. It can be as simple as giving them a certain amount of money, buying clothes that they want to see your child in, or giving them books or movies that talk about love, sex, relationships. · Providing access to items, activities, or areas that is normally not allowed. o I know that this one sounds a little strange and might be hard to look out for. But, it is a way they use to make the child feel “special” and “different” than everyone else. For instance, the youth leader at my church that sexual abused me use to let me sit up in our church sound booth with him all the time, or would tell me to come to youth events early to help him “set up”. This specific step is something they use to get the child to feel comfortable to be alone with them. |
· “No one understands you but me” o A HUGE sign and something almost every predator will do is try to make the child feel they can only count on them. This will cause them to distance them self from their families and friends; growing closer to the predator and making the relationship a priority. They will stop hanging out with friends to stay home and talk on the phone or internet with this person. They will constantly feel like you are betraying them and “don’t understand” them. Now obviously some of these actions are normal for a teenager who is growing up and changing, so when looking at these signs you are looking for there to be one or two that are catching your attention. Although grooming is used mainly for the child, it is also used for the family. Predators want to make sure that you will not be suspicious or second guess them. They will create trust and relationship with you in order to keep you in the dark. Making you feel like they are interested in your child’s talents or just want them to have a “friend. Predators are known for being close family friends, or even family themselves because it is easier to get the parents to trust them with their child that way. Pay attention to who is walking in and out of your door and who is spending time with your child. You can never be too careful! |